We’ve all felt it. You meet up with a group of people, and someone comes in with a “black cloud” hanging over their head. Their energy is off-putting and you feel your own mood affected by it. But we also all have those days where we feel like we have that black cloud following us, and we’re afraid we’ll seem as gloomy as they do.
10 ways to attract good vibes into your life
How can we avoid becoming the person with “bad vibes”? There are some simple ways to keep that black cloud from chasing you, and most importantly, to attract good vibes into your life.
Don’t dwell on the negative
Things happen, but it’s how you respond to them that matters. If you choose to be a victim of what happens, your negative energy will increase. Instead:
- If there’s nothing you can do to improve it, stop thinking about it (if it’s a thought that arises from the situation, don’t let it continue – force yourself to think about something else).
- Don’t mention it more than absolutely necessary. Do not give it your energy.
- Find the lesson in the situation. This may take some time, but if you look for them carefully, you won’t get stuck by whatever negatively impacted you.
Don’t talk about your problems, diseases, worries
The more energy you give to what is wrong, the more it persists. Yes, we all have something to vent about occasionally, but if it’s something you have to say, or even when you’re just thinking about what’s wrong, here are some rules to transform it into good vibes:
Don’t think or say, “I’m so sick, I feel like I was hit by a truck! I don’t know how I will get through this week.”
It’s better to say, “I caught a virus, but I’m taking good care of myself and I feel better every day.”
Don’t think or say, “This job is terrible! My boss is a jerk and no one appreciates me.”
It’s better to say, “I’m looking for a better job, and in the meantime, I’m trying to learn as much as possible, so this benefits me. In fact, my boss is the perfect example of how not to treat employees.”
Love and accept who you are right now
It’s easy to judge what is wrong with you, but how much energy do you give to your positive qualities? Give them more! For every negative comment you make about yourself, give yourself 5 compliments.
Be grateful, smile more and be present!
Let go of the past
You can’t undo anything. What’s done is done. Forgive others, forgive yourself… learn from your mistakes, learn from the mistakes of others. Remember that an unpleasant or inconsiderate action never comes from love, but from a place of deep inner pain (you can be compassionate to this pain without hiding behind it) and release that load of negative energy that you are carrying: resentment, pain, disappointment, sadness, anger, guilt… let it all go.
Don’t give away your power or happiness to anyone
Remember that when you criticize, judge or blame others, you are choosing to focus on what they are doing wrong or what is wrong with others – and you’re giving these people the power to control your mood. Ask yourself why someone’s behavior irritates you so much that you let it bother you. Why let the behavior of others affect your mood? Why give them the power to control your happiness? Instead of criticizing, judging or blaming, find something you can complement them on.
Don’t say yes when you want to say no
Honor your needs, priorities, time and energy. Save your valuable time and energy for things that are important to you, or when others ask you to do something, make sure it brings you satisfaction and joy. Otherwise, politely decline.
Laughs a lot to attract good vibes
Surround yourself with optimistic people who make you laugh.
Gratitude attracts good vibes
Appreciate your many blessings, and also appreciate your struggles and frustrations. How have you been enriched by them?
Use your imagination to visualize what can go right, instead of what could go wrong. Train yourself to visualize the best case scenario. Orient yourself towards the solution, not the problem. Think only about the ideal situation, not the current problematic situation.
Physical exercise eliminates your problems, and also wipes them from your mind. If you’re worried about something, you have to give your brain a chance to process things. Exercise floods the system with feel-good endorphins, relieves stress, and in the middle of a long bike ride, a walk or in the middle of mountain climbing, you might suddenly have a revelation. Or, at least for a while, you’ll be fully present and not be worried about the future.
Live in the present
Speaking of being present, be interested in what you’re doing, no matter how “boring” or “mundane” it may be, because any activity can be as interesting as you are willing to make it. This will keep you in the moment and keep your mind off your problems and worries.
You have the power to control your mood. Use these exercises to boost your energy each day and attract good vibes into your surroundings. Soon, you’ll be the sunbeam of good vibes that lights up everyone’s mood!